There is an incredible amount of to-do over porn – I think everyone knows the internet has made it widely accessible, cheap, and accepted in the mainstream. It’s no longer something you hide under your bed. There are, of course, many lines of thinking about porn, including a lot of hoopla regarding pornography and female empowerment. Basically there are two camps, those who think porn can be empowering to women and those that don’t. I don’t care about either one - what bothers me are the logistics.
First off, I’ll be completely honest and say, I just don’t get it. And I think many, many women feel the same way. I understand it flips some sort of switch in dudes, but in the event I happen to be around porn (don’t ask me what event that might be), I only think about logical things. Such as:
a) Why does she still have on socks and tennis shoes?
b) That’s gotta hurt
c) Sorry, but you aren’t going to get pleasure from that position.
d) Why is the pizza delivery guy in the background watching?
Before my husband and I married he lived in this really shady apartment building. One of the guys that lived in the back drove a taxi and moonlighted as an extra in pornos. Yup, an extra. I thought he was a total douche bag before I ever found that out, but that really cemented it for me. It also made me feel he must be woefully inadequate, because why else would you be an extra? I mean, come on, why wouldn’t you just commit and actually be in the flick? Clearly the answer lies in one of two things – it’s either a size or longevity issue. Or both.
All fun and jokes aside – perhaps you’ve read about the recent suspension of filming in the adult industry due to a performer testing positive for HIV. What really bothers me about this is that it has happened a number of times, as recently as last year, in fact. Adult film star Derrick Burts tested positive less than a year ago and has since advocated condom use in pornographic films. I understand HIV testing is a monthly requirement for porn actors, but let’s face it, that isn’t enough. A lot can happen in 30 days, not to mention the window for HIV antibodies to show up in the system can take as long as three months to be detectable in blood. HIV testing is not a substitute for condoms.
It isn’t that I’m against porn, I just do not understand it. With the way the industry is currently run I can’t understand how it’s empowering to anyone – men or women.