Hey kids, happy Tuesday, and I hope each and every one of you enjoyed the long weekend. And now for the second installment of Ask Vesta:

Dear Vesta,

Do you believe people can change?

Sincerely,

Wants to Know

Dear Wants to Know,

That is a tricky question. Obviously we change with age, so I assume we are taking transformation relating to increasing maturity out of the equation, which leaves us to ponder whether or not a fully-formed adult is capable of change. In general, I don’t believe so. People’s ways and views are usually deeply ingrained, and each individual’s web of being is constructed over a long period of time. That is not to say a person will never change. If the web is broken by some life-shattering event, such as serious illness, death in the family, or perhaps witnessing something traumatic or catastrophic, then a person might be inclined to change, and hopefully for the better. I also think a person who has made a series of poor decisions, and as a result hits ‘rock bottom’, is capable of change. Take for instance someone with drug or alcohol problems, or someone who has created financial chaos in their life and as a result brought about fiscal ruin. Those are hard lessons learned, but for those that do, the result could be lifestyle changes for the better. I think it’s also worth mentioning that sometimes a person doesn’t necessarily have to fall down a black hole to do an about-face. For example, I have someone in my life that was diagnosed with type II diabetes, which prompted the person to completely change a lifetime of terrible eating habits.

As for the individual that promises to change his or her ways for the sake of doing so? In my opinion it’s a rare occurrence, not without something to propel them toward transformation. It it were that easy then more people would stick to their New Year’s resolutions. Perhaps one can change temporarily, but more often than not people revert back to old ways. Of course there are exceptions to that – I’m sure we all know someone who has undergone huge change simply because he or she decided it was time.

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Hi Vesta,

Where can I see a unicorn? What do I have to do? Revirginization?

I’ve been waiting for years to see one, and now I’m worried that day will never come.

Thanks for your help,

Waiting

Dear Waiting,

Last week we discussed vaginal rejuvenation. While we did not specifically address revirginization and unicorns, I’d like to point out that any doctor that claims he or she can assist you in your mythical creature quest via nip/tuck to the mudgeon is steering you wrong. Don’t fall for it, it’s nothing but a marketing ploy. Besides, even if you close the gate after the horse got out, it still got out, you know what I’m saying?

I hope so, because I’m a little fuzzy myself.

As for unicorn viewing, I guess you could take a hallucinogenic, but not whatever the one is that turns people into cannibals, that shit is no good. Personally I wouldn’t recommend doing drugs, not only are they illegal, but also because you can’t really control what you hallucinate. It would totally suck if you were expecting rainbows and unicorns and ended up with killer clowns, or a room full of Snookis. Having said that, there is a very real possibility that if you get your wisdom teeth removed, you will not only have the opportunity to ride a unicorn, but also to appear as a guest on the Ellen Degeneres Show.

Unicorn is a state of mind, my friend.