The things that get research funding never cease to amaze me. I’m sure most of you read the headline about the shape of a woman’s face determining the length of her relationships. Apparently a study was conducted in which two composites were given to hundreds of men, one depicting a woman with more feminine features, and one with more masculine features. The majority of men indicated they would choose to have a short-term fling with the more feminine looking female, while they would choose the more masculine featured woman for a long-term relationship. The article references other studies in which scientists say women choose ‘hunky’ men for flings, but marry ‘geeky’ dudes because they make better mates. And, “Previous research has found that attractive women are likelier to be unfaithful, particularly if their partner is ugly.”
Man, where do I start? How about with, why is this being studied? What purpose does it really serve? Surely there are better indicators of relationship longevity to study than this.
What bothered me most about this silly ‘article’ was the use of the term ugly. Now, since the crappy article didn’t give information about this previous research, I don’t know if the term ugly was actually included in the findings, or if it was simply a poor choice of words by the numbnut who wrote the blurb for CTV News. I hope it was the latter.
I’m bothered by the use of the term ugly. I’m not going to go all beauty is in the eye of the beholder on you or anything, but who decides who is and isn’t ugly?
I think women can agree David Beckham is considered good-looking, right? Women LOVE him, all over the world. And yet, he does nothing for me personally. Logically, I can look at him and say, yeah, okay, I see the appeal. But he doesn’t entice me. Now, Vincent Cassel, on the other hand, is not what some would consider traditionally handsome. Who cares? He’s hot.
I asked my husband for a female equivalent, and he came up with Fairuza Balk and Yolandi Visser. I can’t remember if I’ve talked about Yolandi’s appeal to men on this blog before, or if it was in a previous blog, but dudes definitely love her. I once asked several different men, one of whom is in his 60s, about the female half of Die Antwoord, and every one of them said she’s got that certain something. A female friend of mine, however, was disgusted by the notion. There is absolutely nothing traditional about Yolandi, but she has become a sex symbol.
I guess my point is, I would think that for both men and women, there are far more important factors to take into consideration regarding longevity of relationships than whether a person is masculine or feminine, hunky or geeky. And, for that matter, what one person considers hot may be boring as hell to the next. Likewise, what might be considered unattractive to one person could be exotically sexy to another.
I vote we make ugly a term used only to describe personalities, not looks.
Oh. Damn. So I read the stupid article this morning and left it open on my laptop because I planned to post about it, but I had a million things to do today, so it was several hour later when I sat down to write this post. All through it I kept thinking I was missing something. Then, just as I was about to hit publish it came to me. I meant to talk about the Sunglass Hut.
A while back, my husband and I walked past a Sunglass Hut and decided to go in. I was busy trying on glasses and asking my husband what he thought about each pair, and the whole time the salesgirl blathered away about, I dunno, sunglasses. I wasn’t really listening to her. Until, that is, she said this in response to the pair of glasses I had slipped on:
Sunglass Hut Salesgirl: Oooooo! Yeah, those look good on you, because you have a sunflower seed face.
Suddenly she had my full attention.
Me: What did you say?
Her: You know, your face is shaped like a sunflower seed, so they look really good on you!
My husband almost fell over from laughing so hard. I, however, was not amused. Hair stylists and fashion mags use some pretty general terms to describe facial shapes – oval, round, square, heart-shaped, triangle. Never once have I heard sunflower seed, and I’ve gotta say, telling someone their face looks like something that comes out of a salted shell is a terrible sales tactic.
I’m not sure how I equated that to the whole facial shape as related to relationship length thing, but it’s almost six o’clock, so it’s either publish this or write out the weird dream I had last night, and nobody wants that.